Lead me in your truth and teach me for you are the God of my salvation; for you I wait all the day long.

Psalm 25 verse 5

Who is the man who fears the Lord? Him will He instruct in the way that he should choose.

Psalm 25 verse 12

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.

Psalm 32 verse 8

Behold, you delight in truth in the inward being, and you teach me wisdom in the secret heart.

Psalm 51 verse 6

Teach me your way, O Lord, that I may walk in your truth; unite my heart to fear your name.

Psalm 86 verse 11

Blessed is the man whom you discipline, O Lord, and whom you teach out of your law.

Psalm 94 verse 12

Teach me to do your will, for you are my God! Let your good spirit lead me on level ground.

Psalm 143 verse 10

All your sons will be taught by the LORD, and great will be your children's peace.            

Isaiah chapter 54 verse 13

Jesus said: Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Matthew chapter 11 verse 29

Jesus said: It is written in the prophets, "And they shall all be taught by God". Therefore, everyone who has heard and learned from the Father comes to me.

John chapter 6 verse 45

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1. Two Worldviews

The two fundamental questions which need to be answered are:

  1. What is the purpose of sex?
  2. What is the purpose of marriage?

To those who support the "traditional" view of marriage, the status quo, the answers to these two questions are glaringly obvious; but to those who reject the status quo these questions are both irrelevant and meaningless. This is why there is no meeting of minds in this debate. If we are to understand why this is so, we must at the very outset examine what lies at the very foundation of the disagreement - and that is a radical difference in worldview.

The Humanist Worldview

On the home page of the British Humanist Association website (humanism.org.uk) it is stated that humanists:

  • think for themselves about what is right or wrong, based on reason and respect for others.
  • look to science instead of religion as the best way to discover and understand the world.

A humanist is not necessarily an atheist. He may believe that there is, or may be, a god, or gods, but this belief has little or no relevance to his daily life. To the humanist, man is the captain of his own ship, the master of his own destiny, and he does not need the interference of a god to enable him to make moral or ethical judgements. Human reason is more than adequate for the task.

The humanist worldview is not a religious but a scientific one. His understanding of the universe in general, and human life in particular, is based on his understanding of scientific knowledge and theory.

One of the theories that has shaped much of humanist thinking about life is the Theory of Evolution. According to this theory, life on earth was initiated about 4.5 billion years ago by some means that are not yet fully understood, and has progressed to this day in accordance with two complementary processes. The better known of the two is referred to as "natural selection", the term coined by Charles Darwin to indicate that a species will survive where it is well suited to its environment but will not survive where it is not so well suited. This is known more colloquially as "survival of the fittest". The effect of natural selection is that organisms that are unable to adapt to their changing environments will become extinct, while organisms that are able to adapt will survive and flourish.

The second process, which is not so well known, is the one which enables the organism to adapt in the first place. This process is referred to as "random mutation".

Every living cell contains a molecule called DNA. Within this DNA molecule is held all of the genetic code for that organism, and every DNA molecule within one organism is the same as all the others. Cells reproduce by means of division - the cell splits itself into two and the DNA molecule is replicated. Sometimes, however, the replicated DNA molecule is not identical to the original. This is what is known as "random mutation". The vast majority of such random mutations are insignificant, they make no difference at all to the organism; of the remainder, most are detrimental and result in disease (such as cancer). A tiny number are beneficial and present the organism with a survival advantage, allowing it to better adapt to its environment.

Random Mutation may also occur during reproduction, where one half of the father's DNA molecule is combined with one half of the mother's DNA molecule so that half of the child's genetic coding has come from one parent and half from the other parent.

I have no intention in this essay of delving into the pros and cons of the Theory of Evolution. The one point that needs to be highlighted is this: evolution, as it is understood in the humanist worldview, is not directed.

What does that mean? It means, quite simply, that there is no intelligence behind evolution. There is no plan. There is no purpose. Evolution is not "going anywhere". There is no target, no objective, no endpoint. What occurs in a random mutation is simply the result of the process of cause and effect. To put it crudely, the fact that the random mutation provides a survival advantage is a matter of pure luck, in the same way that someone correctly guessing this week's winning lottery numbers is a matter of pure luck.

In a universe without a god there is no purpose to sex, in the same way that there is no purpose to a rainbow

Sexual reproduction evolved in just the same way as every other biological feature evolved - random mutation brought about an adjustment and natural selection "fine tuned" it over time. This means that the notion that sex in some way has "purpose" is a nonsense. Reproduction occurs as the result of sexual intercourse, but reproduction is not the purpose of sex. There is no purpose to sex, in the same way that there is no purpose to a rainbow, in exactly the same way that in the worldview of a universe without a god, there is no purpose to anything. Things are the way they are because of the laws of physics, chemistry, and biology and the principle of cause and effect, nothing more and nothing less.

The Theist Worldview

The term "theist" is used to mean someone who believes not only that a god exists but that he is interested in and involved with the universe that he created. The word is derived from the Greek word for 'god', which is 'theos'. 'Monotheism' is the belief that there is only one god. The three great monotheistic religions in the world today are, in order of antiquity, Judaeism, Christianity, and Islam.

The theist believes that the universe was created by God: that he designed it, that he planned it, and that he executed his plan deliberately and with purpose. Unlike the humanist worldview, which believes that the universe is as it is today because the "Big Bang" occurred in the way that it did at the time that it did, the theist worldview believes that the universe is the way it is because God is working towards something up ahead, that we are going somewhere, that there is a target, an objective, an end point to be arrived at.

The universe in general, and mankind in particular, was designed. When God was standing at the drawing board with his initial draught sketches, he decided that the best way to handle the need for reproduction within the species was to build in sexuality, to have a male and a female, one to provide a seed and one to provide an egg and the means of incubating the embryonic offspring. He designed the means of getting the seed to the egg, and he designed the means whereby the male and female are motivated to get the seed to the egg, and all that follows from that.

In the theist worldview, sex, like everything else in the universe, has a purpose; and because it has a purpose there is a right way and a wrong way to use it.

In the theist worldview, sex, like everything else in the universe, has a purpose; and because it has a purpose there is a right way and a wrong way to use it. My lawnmower has a purpose. It was designed for cutting grass on a lawn. If I use it for that purpose, it will serve me well. If I use it for some other purpose, for which it was not designed, it will cause me trouble. Exactly the same is true of my sexuality. If I use it for the purpose for which it was designed, it will serve me well. If I use it for some other purpose, for which it was not designed, it will cause me trouble.

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